A kind act by a man who builds houses for homeless people. This might seem insignificant to someone who is enjoying the benefits of a home but for a person who does not have anything this act of kindness will change their life for good.
Hats off to this man who took it as his responsibility to help this woman.
What does food for thought mean? We eat food for survival, nourishment, health and pleasure. In the same way, we keep our mind alive and full of vitality by giving it appropriate nourishment. Without food, our bodies weaken, become ill and ultimately perish. The same holds true for our minds. Without good thoughts, nourishing and replenishing our energy, our minds weaken and eventually wither away.
Just as we monitor what we eat and not just eat whatever comes in front of us, it is equally important to monitor what we think. Our thoughts have the ability to permeate our beings and color our mood, disposition and over the long term, our personality. People who feed their minds negative thoughts will develop a negative personality. The same is true for pessimism, sarcasm, self-doubt, self-berating, self-loathing and any other type of intrapersonal communication (communication with our self). We have the choice to constantly feed our minds with positivism or negativism, optimism or pessimism, hope or despair, boost our self-confidence or undermine it. Ultimately, whatever we say to ourselves creates our own reality. For example, if a student achieves very high grades, but expects himself to be graded at 100% and never less than that, he will be unhappy even if he scores 98%. He might even feel depressed and say to himself that he is a loser because he scored less than 100%. It is obvious here that the problem is the student’s internal standard, according to which he decides success or failure. What we tell our inner self, therefore, determines whether we feel like we succeeded or failed. This is especially important for our younger generation because we often hear of young people who cannot face a crisis, failure or a difficulty and suffer a nervous breakdown or even commit suicide. It is their self-talk which makes them hopeless and helpless at a time when they actually need to bolster their confidence and harness their strength to pull themselves through a rough situation.
If we continually feed ourselves unhealthy, rotten food, we cannot expect to maintain a healthy body. In the same way, unhealthy thoughts that do not nourish us emotionally or mentally, spoil our personality and create an emotionally and mentally sick individual.
Whether you think you are right or wrong, either way you are correct. Be careful and monitor what thoughts you consume.
Anecdotally, there is sufficient evidence to state that there are major issues in the way most families are raising their children, and the effect of their upbringing is the root cause of various serious problems at an individual as well as at a societal level.
The lack of appropriate Islamic upbringing is most noticeable in children who:
- spend most of their time using electronic devices
- are disrespectful towards their parents and towards other family members
- answer back habitually
- believe they are not answerable to anyone for their actions
- are more influenced by peers rather than Islam
- are argumentative even in trivial matters
- display self-destructive tendencies
- are self-centered and self-absorbed
- spend more time interacting with screens than with people
- do not consider marriage important
- are involved in music, internet-surfing, watching movies or in other such activities instead of doing anything productive
- are ungrateful and negative
- have no regard for their parents’ hard work
- are not inclined towards advancing themselves academically, professionally or spiritually
The above list in not meant to be exhaustive. It is instead just a snapshot of the type of behavior which is becoming increasingly common among young people. The real danger is that it is becoming so common that it is regarded as normal. In my conversations with mothers whose children indulge in such behavior, the most common reason they have brought up is that their son or daughter was born in a western country and therefore it was normal for them to behave in such a manner. It is time parents are reminded that Islam is not bound geographically. The principles of Islam are not meant for a specific group of people at a specific period in time. The issues that societies face at different times vary greatly. However, as Muslims, we believe that the solution to those problems lie within Islam and that it is our duty to utilize the tenets of our excellent religion to overcome them.
Obviously, the topic of raising children in Islam is a vast one, and which cannot be covered in the scope of a brief discussion. I hope to raise some important and pertinent points in the forthcoming articles covering various aspects of raising Muslim children. If you have tried and tested ways by which you have successfully raised Muslim children, do share them with other readers in the comments section below.
There are many theories about why bad things happen to good people, about why seemingly good, virtuous people often seem to lead difficult lives, interspersed with calamity, disaster and suffering. We all know people who have suffered tremendous losses or had catastrophic health problems, and yet have never hurt anyone or done anything remotely wrong their entire life. So that leaves us with the question: why do bad things happen to good people?
The theory of karma would say “what goes around comes around”. It explains that the actions of an individual shape his or her future. In other belief systems (Buddhism, Jainism and Hinduism, for example), individuals are born and reborn endlessly as different life forms until they attain salvation. Depending on their previous life’s sins people are rewarded or punished in the next life.
However, Islam has a logical alternative to these theories. Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him), said, “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that.”
Allah, in His wisdom, has decreed that by being patient through suffering and by asking Allah (and only Him) for his mercy and forgiveness, people get a chance to increase their reward and facilitating their way to jannah . And our Creator, knows us best, He tells us in the Quran (Chapter 2 Verse 286): Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned…
So when bad things happen to good people, it is because those good people are being tested for their mettle, their faith, their trust and complete reliance on Allah. They are being tested so that their patience and gratitude in the face of adversity and suffering will be shown to them on the day of judgment in their book of deeds. And when their good and bad deeds are weighed against each other on the scales of Allah, their good deeds will come out heavier. So when we follow this line of logic, the truth of this Ayah from the Quran (Chapter 2 Verse 153) becomes apparent: Verily Allah is with those who are patient.
We at Muslim Window, would like to extend our deep and heart-felt condolence to the families and loved ones of all 9/11 victims. This is not a crime perpetrated by Muslims because a Muslim by definition cannot be a terrorist.
9/11 was a a terror of unimaginable magnitude, and an attack planned and executed with chilling precision. The people who died on 9/11 left their families empty and the void they left cannot be filled- ever. The horror of losing someone in a terror attack is the stuff nightmares are made of. You are not alone in this tragedy. The Muslims of America share your sentiment of loss and feel the tragedy as much as you do, because since 9/11 Muslims have become the target of a huge number of people who believe all Muslims and Islam, are to blame for this attack. Islamophobia has increased and Muslims everywhere are mistrusted and treated with suspicion. Those Muslims for whom America is their birthplace, feel like their patriotism is always questioned because of this terrorist act, increasingly becoming the “others” when they condemn and hate what happened on 9/11 just as musch as non-Muslim Americans.
On this anniversary of 9/11 filled with pain, let us resolve to hate the enemy, not each other; uproot the enemy, not your neighbor. Doubt strangers, not your own fellow citizens. Know your friends and know your enemies better.
Give yourself permission to heal and to let the pain of your loss rest.
We pray that no such incident ever takes place again anywhere in the world, which caused so much destruction and loss of life that has changed the world forever and its impact is even felt today.
Check our articles to confirm what Islam says about the killing of innocents http://www.www.muslimwindow.com/a-terrorist-cannot-be-muslim/ and also what it says about suicide http://www.www.muslimwindow.com/suicide-is-strictly-banned-in-islam/